A favorite sex toy party customer was baffled about something rather uncomfortable. Her and her husband love to play with sex toys, always looking to try new ones, yet always reverting back to a couple of her long time favorites in her night stand. The problem: her ‘regulars’ seemed to be giving her a problem. Shortly after playtime, her natural PH balance was, how should we say it? “Out of balance.” She would “have to be careful” for a couple days afterwards, hoping it would not become a nuisance, or worse, go into the all dreaded yeast infection.
Now I don’t profess to be a doctor, but I do know a little about sex toys. So if you or your partner can relate to this situation, here are a couple of candid questions to ask:
—Are your sex toys washed with soap and water before and after each use?
—If so, are they placed in an area where they may come into contact with a lot of dust and/or other particles?
—Are your toys made of jelly, soft rubber, ‘cyber skin’ and/or other porous materials?
—What kind of lubricant do you normally use? Is it water based? Is it flavored, scented, colored?
These are all important questions and things to consider in the healthy play with sex toys and other marital aids. Most modern marvels have great new textures and materials that make them so appealing to the feel and touch. The problem is, unless they are made from very rigid plastic, silicone, metal or glass, they are porous. And, unless kept squeaky clean, nasty little things can grow in porous textures, and hence harbor harmful bacteria.
Soap and water is always a sure bet, especially easy if your toy happens to be waterproof. But in the heat of the moment, you don’t want to wonder “Did I scrub this little darling last time?” and then run to the bathroom while your partner takes five and sings the Star Spangled Banner. This is a sure way to ruin the passion and play of the moment. I recommend keeping an antibacterial sex toy cleaner right there in your nightstand, where you just spray it on your toy before play, and then spray it on after play to keep it nice and germ free. Most sex toy party companies carry a product that works well, or you can hunt for one online…it is definitely worth your time in keeping you and your toys in check.
Another thing to consider is what kind of lubricant to use. And if you’re a woman, you should ALWAYS use a lubricant with a sex toy! I truly believe the best ‘everyday’ type of lubricant is water based, fragrance-free, and color-free. This is especially important if you are sensitive to topical lotions or make-up in general. Lubricants that are oil based tend to be more popular for men, but women should never use them internally…any hint of bacteria stays with the lube and it is difficult to wash completely off.
‘Flavored’ lubricants can be fun, but should really be kept for special occasions. In addition, they should not be used internally for women and be sure to wash it off with plenty of water soon after any play. It’s always best to make sure they are water based, and avoid anything that has sugar in its base to sweeten things up.